Lasting Longer in Bed: Tips for Overcoming Premature Ejaculation
Premature ejaculation is one of the most common forms of sexual dysfunction, and studies have shown that up to 30 percent of men will struggle with this condition at some point in their lives. Though there is no concrete set of circumstances that defines premature ejaculation, you might consider it to be a problem if you are unable to control how quickly you ejaculate (also known as “coming” during sex) and the issue keeps you or your partner from being sexually satisfied. Luckily, premature ejaculation is actually a very treatable condition for most people. Here is a look at several tips you can use to help you overcome this potentially stressful situation.
Many men find that direct stimulation of the penis creates an unavoidable need to ejaculate (often within seconds of penetration). Uncircumcised men, in particular, often have more sensitive genitals and may be more prone to premature ejaculation from over stimulation. One of the first steps you can take to try to make yourself last longer, therefore, is to always use a condom when having sex. Condoms provide an extra barrier that reduces the amount of direct friction on your penis, and they can help lessen the intensity of the sensations you feel. You can also find certain lubricants that have a very mild numbing agent among their ingredients. These products can help by slightly dulling the amount of feeling in your sensitive nerves and may help you ward off an orgasm for longer. If your premature ejaculation is especially severe, your doctor may also consider prescribing a low dose of a drug such as an antidepressant because these medications often have delayed orgasms as a side effect.
Though it’s rarely recommended by sexuality experts, another way you may be able to delay ejaculation is by focusing on a distinctly un-sexy subject until your partner is closer to being satisfied. Thinking about football, for instance, is a tried and true technique that you may have seen featured in movies and on TV. Still, most sexologists advise against trying to distract yourself in bed because doing so reduces the intimacy between you and your partner.
The “Start-Stop” Technique
One of the most highly recommended ways to fight premature ejaculation is to retrain your body using the “start-stop” technique. This method teaches you to recognize something called the premonitory sensation — your body’s signal that ejaculation is imminent. Once this sensation is felt, the most effective way to delay orgasm is by taking a quick break from intercourse so that you can regain control. Once your level of arousal has slightly calmed down, you can resume sexual contact and keep going until the premonitory sensation is felt again. Once you start to get the hang of it, however, you will be able to have longer sexual encounters with only minimal interruptions.
Pleasuring Your Partner
Most of the solutions to treat premature ejaculation will take time, so it’s a good idea to make sure your partner remains satisfied while you work through your sexual dysfunction. One way to ensure that you and your partner are both able to achieve pleasure is by focusing on oral or manual stimulation before having full-on intercourse. By increasing foreplay and bringing your partner to the brink of orgasm before penetration, the two of you are more likely to climax in tandem and build closeness even if you aren’t able to last as long as you would like.
Premature ejaculation can be a frustrating and potentially embarrassing problem, but it doesn’t have to rule your sex life. By heeding one or more of these tips, you can figure out how to delay orgasm and ensure that both you and your partner are satisfied.